Why are women subject to mistreatment?

I consider myself abused. My last boyfriend not only verbally harassed me, but used violence to cause me physical harm. I know that I am young and I still have a lot to experience, but I am despondent about my future with men. To ease my pain, I've bought I male pet. His name is Hamilton and he is a South American Parrot. I don't know whether this is a wise decision as a stepping stone into a co-ed relationship because the parrot, who I confided in, has actually also hurt me. He scratches my arms when i dislodge him from his perch and he refuses to eat anything I give him, he only accepts food offered from my husband. Does anyone know whats wrong with my parrot, let alone my womenhood? I find this abuse intolerable and I plan on leaving my husband soon. Do any other women have this problem?